Resolving Anger Doesn't Require Venting:
When we talk about calming down and controlling anger, we don't mean denying it. We want to teach children a strategy to address their feelings and manage them in a healthy way. Anger should not be stifled and ignored, but rage does need to be controlled.
Some people believe that the only way to get rid of anger is to drain it by venting. Unfortunately, this venting doesn't take into consideration the person upon whom that anger is vented. Venting anger is selfish and hurtful to others; it's a demonstration of a lack of self-control.
Exploding and venting anger often helps the person feel better, but allowing children to vent their anger doesn't teach them how to manage their emotions in constructive ways. The solution is to help children learn to control their emotions and funnel the energy into constructive solutions. The most important step is to learn how to stop and take a break from the situation to settle down and then reenter in a more self controlled way. Wait for the child to calm down before preceding. By dialoging with an angry child, you may even get angry as well.
Information gathered from: Effective Parenting Tip- The National Center for Biblical Parenting
When we talk about calming down and controlling anger, we don't mean denying it. We want to teach children a strategy to address their feelings and manage them in a healthy way. Anger should not be stifled and ignored, but rage does need to be controlled.
Some people believe that the only way to get rid of anger is to drain it by venting. Unfortunately, this venting doesn't take into consideration the person upon whom that anger is vented. Venting anger is selfish and hurtful to others; it's a demonstration of a lack of self-control.
Exploding and venting anger often helps the person feel better, but allowing children to vent their anger doesn't teach them how to manage their emotions in constructive ways. The solution is to help children learn to control their emotions and funnel the energy into constructive solutions. The most important step is to learn how to stop and take a break from the situation to settle down and then reenter in a more self controlled way. Wait for the child to calm down before preceding. By dialoging with an angry child, you may even get angry as well.
Information gathered from: Effective Parenting Tip- The National Center for Biblical Parenting
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